Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Hard to put "me" in words



I am having to write/video/compose a "bio" of sorts about myself for a project I am working on. This is much harder than I thought it would be. I think I am a pretty interesting person, and I have much to offer.. But when I am asked to put it in writing or think about how I would like to "introduce" myself, I draw a blank!!!

I have tons of ideas and visions of what my introduction would look like, but I can not formulate this into something even I would want to read/watch.... So, maybe THAT should be my introduction. A list of my fears and insecurities behind "me". Ha Ha. I don't think anyone would want to read that either.

So, it looks like for the first time in my life, I am having trouble finding something to say. This has NEVER happened to me before. I always have something on my mind, and never have a problem voicing it.

I think I will let the camera roll for awhile, and just TALK. Maybe I am better on the spot!

Monday, January 17, 2011

The Year of Hilary.....

I am a pretty outgoing person. I would consider myself adventurous. I take risks.
I do not put myself first, though.
I am a people-pleaser, and I want to make all the people around me happy.
I work too hard at not making waves, that I end up forgetting what it is that I really want out of life. So, I have decided that 2011 is the Year of Hilary.
I do not desire to change who I am, because I like who I am. I like making others happy, and I like that I am an easygoing person. What I do not like is that my desires are usually on the back of my mind. This is what I wish to change.
I am starting with baby steps of self improvement.
I have quit smoking.
I am exercising more, and eating healthy.
I am learning to do what I want to do, and if others do not want to join... THAT'S OK!
This is just the beginning, and I have a whole list of 2011 things that I want to accomplish... These are just a few of them:

* Fly to Vegas for the weekend.
* Go Sky Diving in April.
* Learn to Ski
* Take a road trip... possibly alone?!
* See Tiger Army in California
* See Old Crow Medicine Show
* Make more things than I Buy
* Buy a bike.
* Pay off my Car (ha)
* Walk on a frozen lake, and NOT freak out.
* Be more organized in my day to day life
* Make time for God. (seeing as this is the last thing on my list, it may need to be the first thing I start working on!)

I will do this.
I will be a better me.
I will put my happiness first in 2011!

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

"Third times the charm".. or at least more interesting.

I take back my statement from yesterdays post...
I have now seen my first dead body.
I realized today that by the time I meet these people, they are no longer human bodies, they are mannequins.
I went in today to do another client of the funeral home. (still struggling with what to "call" what I am doing.... suggestions are welcome)
Everything was just as it had been before...
Quiet.
Sterile.
Cold.
Then the back door opened up with a delivery. A delivery of a human body. A very old woman who had just passed away that morning. The two boys who had picked her up, seemed very shocked that I was going to be in the back room with them. It wasn't till I saw, and realized the difference between the dead bodies I had been handling, and the "fresh" dead body they were unloading, that I understood why they thought I may want to leave the room. In my head I was thinking, "I'll see her in a few days anyway... whats the big deal?!" It wasn't a big deal, but different, and somewhat shocking compared to what I had just gotten used to.
Still... didn't freak me out.
I was now in the back room with a woman who looked like she was taking a nap before attending a very nice dinner with her husband at Houllihans, and a woman that looked as if, well, she had just died.
The difference was alarming to me, and eye opening all at the same time. I fully understood the service that the funeral home, and myself are doing for the families. Because today, for the first time in my life, I saw that death is not pretty.

Monday, January 10, 2011

The lack of body heat is just the beginning....



7 is the number of dead bodies I have seen
3 is the number of them that I knew personally.
2 is the number of times I have done hair on a person after they have died.
0 is the number of times it has freaked me out.

I have a very good client who just so happens to own a few funeral homes in the area.

Doing hair on the recently deceased is not something I have always wanted to do. But I have a problem saying no to people I like, and I really like this client.... So I said yes.
Weird, right?
No, not at all!
Martha was the first.
She was an older lady with short hair.
She was wearing a pink robe and her nails had just been painted.
Other than that, I know nothing about this woman.
When I arrived at the funeral home I was full of nerves and was sweating under my many layers of winter wear. As I sat in the office waiting for my instructions I forced myself to calm down and realized that I had to at least get through this one, and if it was that bad, I never had to come back.
At that moment the funeral director told me that they had 2 bodies in the back room and one was in the embalming process, while the lady I needed to prepare was in there as well. I quickly said that I did NOT want to be working in that room. "No problem" he said and he wheeled Martha into another room.

Because I was new at this sort of thing a man stayed in the room with me to make sure I didn't wig out or anything... And to be honest, before I walked into that room, I thought I might wig out myself.
But I didn't.
It was like I had been around dead people my whole life. I didn't even think twice before plugging in my curling iron and getting to work.
She looked dead, and felt cold. I had forgotten about the lack of body heat after death. I got past it and moved on. After that, it was easy and sort of fun.
I was proud of what I had just done and I wanted to do more.
Lucky me, I got a call just a few hours later asking if I could come back in a few days.

I am not sure what the last lady's name was, and that makes me sad.
I do know that she was 76 and her grandson was handling most of her arrangements.
There wasn't anyone in the room with me this time, and I was in the back, alone.
Once again I found myself completely comfortable.
At this point the fact that I am NOT freaked out is freaking me out more than the dead bodies are!
There is an odd part of this job that I am starting to enjoy, and its not just the money.
I have been sick for the past few days and I have had lots of time to lay in bed and think. This subject has been on my mind quite a bit.
When the funeral director gave me the picture of how the family wanted the last woman's hair to look he made a joke and said, "You can keep this for your file". That has been in my head for the past few days! I feel like I do need to keep a "file" of sorts, or at least write something about my experience with these people.
You see, I am the last person to touch them before they are put in the casket. Their makeup has been done, body prepared and they have been fully dressed.
I want to be able to say something about my experience. Maybe this is the place, maybe not. I guess Ill have to figure that out along the way, but for now this will do.


Tuesday, December 14, 2010

winter blues and inspiring tunes

It feels like day 1,093 that I am yet again sitting at home...
I have gone from social butterfly to 90yr old grandma in a matter of weeks.
How did this happen?
Oh yea, WINTER!!!
I was totally ready to embrace winter this year, but I didn't realize it would effect my relationships with friends and boyfriend. It has. My craft life has bloomed, but social life and career is dying. I am trying to stay positive about the good things in my life, and excited about the new friendships I am building. I just don't want to lose the old by bringing in some new....
So, I am in search for an inspirational song to lift my frozen spirit.
I searched "inspirational music" and this is what Google gave me:


Eye of the Tiger – Survivor
Chariots of Fire – Vangelis
The Final Countdown – Europe
We Are the Champions – Queen
We Will Rock You – Queen
I’ve Got the Power – Snap
It’s My Life – Bon Jovi
Affirmation – Savage Garden
Beautiful Day – U2
What a Wonderful World – Louis Armstrong
I Feel Good – James Brown
I Can See Clearly Now – Johnny Nash
Lovely Day – Bill Withers
Walking On Sunshine – Katrina and the Waves
Live Like You Were Dying – Tim McGraw
I Believe I Can Fly – R. Kelly
You Gotta Be - Des’ree
When You Believe – Mariah Carey/ Whitney Houston
Hero – Mariah Carey
I Will Survive – Gloria Gaynor
Bad Day – Daniel Powter
Man In The Mirror – Michael Jackson
I’m Alive – Celine Dione
Tub Thumping – Chumba Wumba
Lose Yourself – Eminem
Remember The Name – Fort Minor
Till I Collapse – Eminem
Return to Innocence – Enigma
O Fortuna – Carmina Burana
My Personal Favourites
Orinoco Flow – Enya
Only Time - Enya
True to Your Heart – 98 degrees & Stevie Wonder
Fly – Celine Dione
Now We Are Free – Lisa Gerard
When You Say Nothing At All – Ronan Keating
New Day – Celine Dione
One Day More – Les Miserables
The Prayer – Celine Dione & Andrea Bocelli
Nessun Dorma – Pavarotti *
Time To Say Goodbye – Sarah Brightman & Andrea Boccelli *

I am still depressed... You suck google search.

No, no. I am just kidding.... But if you have a good song for me, please share! I am looking forward to modifying a few new clothing items tomorrow and will need some inspiring music to get my creative juices flowing, as my mother would say!

Monday, December 13, 2010

struggles behind the chair


This is what I do.
It is one of the only things I consider myself REALLY good at. I get it.

When I was in school, I had instructors telling me that I understood the art of hair design way too well for just starting out. They told me I would be successful...

they were wrong.

I am 3 years in, and tomorrow I plan on cutting down my hours at the salon and looking for a serving/bar tending job.

$117 pay checks in the "busiest month of the year" is not successful in my book.


How did this happen? This was not the plan, not even close. I was going to be making great money and doing what I loved. That's what they told me.

I am a positive person, and I refuse to look at this as defeat!

I am looking at this as just another wall that I will have to tear down. It will take hard work and motivation to not give up. I hope that the people in my life and work place understand the decision that I have to make, because it isn't for lack of passion, but need for financial stability.

I am going to do this, and do it with my all. I will commit 6 months to serving and working 2-3 days at the salon. I will still pursue my clientele and make every effort to build my business. I just need to pay off some debt and store some money in the bank.

I can do this!

Friday, December 10, 2010

Thanks

Craft #1. Dear skin drum.

Thank you mom for all you have taught me.

Without you and your amazing, creative brain I would not be who I am.

I owe it all to you..